Little did Australian content creator Lacey Jade Christie anticipate the
commotion that would ensue when she uploaded a video to TikTok featuring her
attire for a friend's wedding.
Christie posted a video of herself in November 2022, describing the dress
and accoutrements she planned to wear to a wedding. Christie started
enumerating the brands and accessories she wore, "I am off to a wedding,
here is the fit." The look featured a headband, a pink bejeweled handbag,
green shoes, hanging earrings, and a short, low-cut dress with lantern
sleeves. There seemed to be one issue, though: the garment was white.
Christie's account was inundated with viewer comments. Numerous others
branded her "disrespectful" and attacked the color of her outfit.
"Unless you are the bride, you should never attend a wedding in white!"
"Sadly I do agree w/the hater, never wear white to a wedding unless
requested by invitation," read one reply.
Another person commented, "All I have to say is that after the wedding I'd
like to know how the bride and EVERYONE else felt!"
"You look adorable in this dress, but perhaps you should have chosen a
different color for the wedding?" I read another remark.
Others criticised the dress's cut, saying it was indecent.
Beach nuptials? One person said, "if not looks cheap," while another added,
"You don't want to do things to distract from the bride."
Another person said, "Never wear white to a wedding or anything too
revealing!"
Someone another said, "I hope that's a joke."
"Just play" One spectator said, "It's an absolute disaster on all counts.
I'd die of embarrassment in that."
Another user asked, "Does this person have a good friend?"
Christie stated she had no option but to disable the comments area for her
own mental health since the hateful remarks kept coming in. In a video
statement that she also uploaded, she clarified how the antiquated belief
that she was a virgin and pure was symbolized by her wearing white. Christie
said, "Are we still doing that in 2022?"
She clarified that the brides themselves didn't even wear white for the
LGBT wedding; instead, one wore an emerald green gown and the other a ruby
red one. With pride, she declared that "it was a lesbian wedding" and that
she wasn't the only visitor who had donned a skimpy costume. "It was a great
time, and everyone was hot and feeling like themselves," she remarked. "But
you also need to realize that not every wedding is going to look like you
have in mind for a wedding."
Christie also talked to Mammamia about how she handled the hostility she
encountered online.
"My actions surpass even being overweight in a form-fitting outfit. "I made
headlines around the world by wearing white to a wedding," she wrote.
People were incensed that my video had been mishandled on TikTok and wanted
to convey it with me. She went on, "Naively, I responded to a few remarks
and attempted to clarify that it was a queer wedding and that the brides
encouraged us to defy social norms, but the comments didn't stop."
Christie was upset because of internet bullies, even though all she wanted
was to celebrate her friends' lovely nuptials.
"I have never had a video affect my mental health the way this seemingly
innocent OOTD (outfit of the day) did, nor have I ever had any of my videos
appear on 'conservative TikTok,'" the woman said.
Although "strangers assumed I am a selfish person and wanted to detract
from the brides," Christie said in her letter that she was aware that her
"chosen family are the best and most supportive people" and that they "never
judge someone based on what they look like" or "what they're wearing."
She also mentioned that the experience had brought up a lot of her old
trauma.
"It wears a person down when more than a thousand people tell you to 'lift
your boobs' or 'wear something more appropriate,'" the woman said.
Christie said, "I read those remarks, I resisted them, I read some more,
and ultimately I questioned myself and my decision." Still, she found the
inner power to support herself.
"It's indescribable how much internalized fatphobia I had to overcome in
order to accept and love my current body. My purpose for being online is to
encourage others to make the most out of their bodies, no matter what shape
they are in. She said, "I don't exist for trolls to enjoy."
Additionally, she stated to news.com.au that the outcry was "out of
control." She remarked, "I'm fat, and my outfit did not fit people's
perceptions of what one should traditionally wear to a wedding."
She reasoned, "I really think that the outrage would not have been half as
bad if a thin person had worn the exact same outfit."
Since "there is a real person at the receiving end of" hurtful remarks, she
called for greater compassion online. She continued, saying:
You could be harming a lot of people in your life by taking the time to
tell me that you don't believe my obese body is acceptable. Even if they
don't immediately effect you, the things you say have an impact.
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